Insecurity means you doubt yourself. You start to think too much and you are tense. If this uncertainty persists, it can lead to a lack of self-confidence and serious problems in various areas of your life.
When you have been through a traumatic experience, this automatically gets into your system. This can eventually manifest itself in physical or mental complaints. And then you wonder where all these complaints come from? The trauma will become lodged in your nervous system and this will put you in a survival mode.
You have probably experienced something serious since childhood and you have unconsciously carried the trauma into your life. Or perhaps something serious happened not so long ago. This can cause a lot of uncertainty in you, causing you to become anxious.
Most people just get on with life, but at a certain point you become aware that the same emotions keep coming up in certain situations. This can be in relationships with others or while looking for a job, moving, finances, starting your own business. You keep encountering the same problem and then you lose courage again, because things will go wrong again. ‘Never mind’ is what you say in your head. And there you are again with all your emotions and bad feelings.
So here you are now living through your comfort zone, because somewhere you do not dare to take further steps. You stagnate and stay in the old way, because that feels nice and familiar. You have probably already been to the doctor and been given soothing (soothing) medication. But this doesn’t solve it for you.
Somewhere in your life you reach a phase where you notice that you are mirrored by your outside world. This is a phase in your life when you learn things by watching and listening to others. You will learn to feel better what is happening to you inside, and a lot will happen! The pennies are about to drop…
Once you have come to some insights, change is already around the corner. And then that uncertainty comes into play. You feel very strongly that something needs to change, but how? It cannot be otherwise because your young life has taught you to make choices based on fear and uncertainty. And these choices have never been in line with what your heart wanted. That’s why you keep learning the same lesson.
As soon as you can convert your uncertainty into (self)confidence, only then will you reach a state where you can make choices that are in line with your soul’s desire. And so the change has started and you will no longer encounter the lesson.
Uncertainty is a pattern that can be broken. It is useful to find out where the uncertainty comes from and if you know what causes the uncertainty, you can work on it in a more targeted manner. This way, when you feel insecure, you can remember that that feeling is part of an experience from the past and says nothing about where you are now in life. It is hard work and a courageous move towards your freedom, but it gives you so much more in return.